Flirting

Use Eye Contact  - Hold their gaze a little longer than usual, with a warm, genuine smile. It’s subtle but powerful.

 

Give Genuine Compliments - Notice something specific about them — not just looks, but how they carry themselves, their laugh, their sense of humour, or how they handled a situation.

 

Use Subtle Touch (If Appropriate)- A light touch on the arm when you laugh, or a brief hand on the shoulder shows interest. These little cues can signal interest without being over the top.

 

Ask Thoughtful, Flirty Questions  - "What’s something fun you’ve always wanted to try?" or "What’s the most spontaneous sexual adventure you’ve ever done?" — playful, slightly cheeky questions to open up connection.

 

Confidence Through Authenticity - You don’t need to be overly slick or suave. Being sincerely interested and present is very attractive.

 

Body Posture - Open posture, leaning in slightly when they speak, and mirroring their movements subtly shows you’re engaged and enjoying their company.

IIt can be daunting to think you're about to ask a couple to move to the next level -0 whether that be to get their number to arrange something after or perhaps go back to a room and play. The fear of rejection is real! Here's some options....

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• This is fun — should we grab a drink and escape this chaos for a bit?

• I feel like this conversation deserves a better soundtrack. Want to find a quieter corner?

• I’d love to continue this another time — what’s the best way to reach you?

• Before one of us gets pulled into another conversation, I should get your number?

• We've really enjoying our chemistry tonight. Would you be comfortable if we made this evening a little more private?

• We’ve really enjoyed getting to know you — and would love to see where this could go. Would you be up for coming back to our room or catching up again?

• We’re not great at subtle hints, so here’s us being obvious — we’re heading off to play, and would love you to join us if you’re interested.

If You’re Intrigued and Open….

 

• Well, this just got interesting… I have to admit, you’ve piqued my curiosity.

• I didn’t have this on my bingo card for the night, but I’m listening.

• I appreciate how upfront you’re being — it’s refreshing. Tell me what you both have in mind.

• I feel like I should probably hear your sales pitch over a drink first.

• That’s quite the offer — are we talking about a little harmless flirting or something more adventurous?

• I’m flattered, truly. Can you tell me a bit about what you’re hoping for? I just like to be clear on intentions.

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It's perfectly acceptable to say can you have a chat with your partner first - you both need to be on the same page. Everyone will respect that! However, don't string them along - if you're not sure say so or suggest an alternative such as meeting up another night. 

If You’re Not Into It….

 

• I’m genuinely flattered, you two are lovely — but that’s not my thing. I really appreciate the honesty though!

• That’s a tempting offer, but I’m going to be boring tonight. You two have fun though!

• You’ve definitely caught me off guard — in a good way. Mind if we chat a little more first and see where the vibe takes us?

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Keep your tone warm, smile, and either leave the door open or close it clearly while respecting their boldness. People usually appreciate directness when it’s paired with kindness and a little humour.

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The most important thing is that you stay true to your boundaries while keeping it respectful and, if you want, playful. Couples who approach others typically appreciate clarity and kindness — and you get to call the shots.